The Four Tendencies Course

There’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for building a happier, healthier, more productive life. Understanding the way you respond to expectations can be the key that unlocks your ability to create healthy habits and harmonious relationships. Understand yourself. Understand others. Find the strategies that will work effectively for you to create the life you want.

Who is the Four Tendencies Course for?

This course is for you if you’ve ever wondered…

  • Why can other people rely on me, but I can’t rely on myself?
  • Why does it seem like I resist doing even things I WANT to do?
  • Why can’t other people accept that I find comfort and freedom in my routines?
  • Why doesn’t everyone do the things they say they are going to do like I do?
  • Why do I struggle to make decisions, often becoming overwhelmed by analysis paralysis?
  • Why can’t I make time for myself and the habits I know would make me happier and healthier?

Gretchen Rubin is the author of several books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, The Four TendenciesBetter Than BeforeThe Happiness Project, and Happier at Home. She has an enormous readership, both in print and online, and her books have sold three million copies worldwide, in more than thirty languages.

key takeaways

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You're an Upholder, Obliger, Rebel or Questioner.

Your understanding of what tendency you are and how you best work can mean the difference between making progress on what matters to you, and not making progress. This self-knowledge will allow you to set yourself up for success.

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Understanding the tendencies of others can change your relationships.

We all have our own preferences, ideas and opinions on the best ways of doing things. By getting clear on the tendencies of the people around you, whether they are colleagues, partners, friends or family, will mean you can better communicate with them and reduce friction.

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Building habits that stick are based on utilising strategies for your tendency.

While many strategies work for just about everybody, some strategies that work very well for one Tendency can actually be counterproductive for another. Adopting the right strategies for you means building better habits!

Why we like it

  • Gretchen lays everything out in a simple and straightforward way, helping you to get what you need from the course as you dip in and out.
  • Knowing the tendencies of the people around you means better relationships with those people are possible, you can get them to take the free quiz and then use the course resources to build a better understanding of those around you.
  • It's handy to have access to this so you can revisit whenever works best for you. We've come back to this years later and found new and interesting aspects added.